When I was growing up, what I have noticed is that as a community we were very close-knit. You always had uncles, aunts and cousins around you. But over the years, as the older generation have passed away, the generation that was born here has drifted apart. We don’t stay as connected as we did before, and now it’s a concerted effort by individuals whether they want to do that or not.
As I get older, in the back of my mind what’s important to me is that my children are well, and that they’re not going to have to struggle or go through stuff I went through. There’s a lot of negativity around, but for me what’s important is having peace and relaxation, being able to do the things I want to do. Most people that I’ve spoken to have spoken about returning to Africa and reconnecting to their roots – or the Caribbean. I do think about it. I’ve always felt a disconnection even though I was born here, not feeling like I fully belonged. I don’t know if going to another country would make me feel any better.
For me, getting older is about doing all the things I’ve always wanted to do. I’ve always wanted to learn to learn to play the drums, and I started learning over lockdown. I used to be a fitness fanatic back in the day and I try to maintain that in some form – I do yoga and HIIT classes, and I love dancing. Staying fit and healthy is so important at this age.
I’m a retired secondary school teacher who, in moments of madness, mingles in the education circles as a supply teacher. Over the years I have not allowed my occupation to define me, learning new skills, knowledge and competencies’ in life coaching and mentoring.
This has opened the doors to venturing into the corporate world as a freelance workshop facilitator, teaching entrepreneurial skills to the next generation, working with the unemployed as a lecturer and working with over-50s seeking employment. I was actively involved with Ultra Education, a community-based organisation which taught the next generation to become entrepreneurs and start their own businesses.
The trouble is, once you get to 50, you’re written off. When you’re trying to get into work, even though you’ve got experience or you’re properly qualified, people don’t want to take you on. It’s been a challenge. Ten years on, at 60, it’s still a challenge. When you get to 50 all that’s offered to you is wills and funeral arrangements. That’s all you see for older people on TV. The perception of this age is based on perceptions from years ago – but the lifestyles of people in our 50s and 60s is not the lifestyle people had 30 years ago. We’ll be living into our 80s or longer! So we must make the most of it, stay fit and healthy, and make sure we’re doing all those things that are important to us.